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A hair change is never really just a hair change. It is a declaration. A quiet, slightly dramatic announcement to yourself and everyone around you that something has shifted and you are no longer interested in looking like the person you were before. This is about the psychology behind why we reach for the scissors or the colour when life gets complicated, what it actually means when a new cut makes you stand differently, and why changing your hair is one of the most underrated forms of self authorship available to any of us at any given moment.
Style

Change Your Hair, Change Your Life

Burnout does not arrive dramatically. It creeps in quietly until one day you are staring at a simple task like it is written in a foreign language and you cannot remember what it felt like to not be exhausted. Recovery is not a weekend off or a wellness retreat. It is slower, less aesthetic, and considerably more boring than anyone on the internet makes it look. This is the practical guide to actually recovering, what helped, what was useless, how long it really takes, and why the most important thing I did was stop pretending I was fine before I actually was.
Healing

A Very Practical Guide to Recovering from Burnout

Every time a woman does not report what happened to her, someone asks why. The answer is not simple, not comfortable, and not something that reflects on her. It reflects on the systems, the cultures, and the rooms full of people who made it clear, long before she ever had to decide, that her account would be questioned, minimised, or used against her. This is an honest and unflinching look at the real reasons women stay silent, written without judgment for every woman who made that calculation and chose to protect herself instead.
Feminine Rage

Why Women Don’t Report It

Life has a way of making us practical, serious, and quietly joyless. In this article, I explore how to reclaim whimsy through small, everyday moments that make life feel lighter. From wearing the good shoes and feeding birds to buying fresh flowers or dancing in the kitchen, these tiny acts can shift your mindset without requiring a complete life overhaul. It is a guide to embracing curiosity, playfulness, and delight, proving that growing up does not mean giving up your sense of wonder.
Self-Care

How to Stop Being an Unwhimsical Bitch

The options are right there, rotating past on a little conveyor belt of possibility, and yet somehow you end up sitting across from someone who leads with their gym routine and calls it personality. Bumble promised us agency and delivered us a paradox of choice with worse outcomes. This is an honest, slightly exhausted, occasionally funny look at what dating apps actually deliver versus what they sell us, why having more options is not the same as having better ones, and what it feels like to swipe through the whole sushi train and still go home and make toast.
Relationships

Bumble Is a Sushi Train and We’re All Going Home Hungry

Not every friendship breakup is dramatic. Sometimes you simply stop making the effort. In this article, I explore the quiet friendships we outgrow and the difficult decision to let them fade without resentment or conflict. From one-sided relationships and mismatched values to emotional exhaustion, this piece examines why some connections naturally reach their end. Letting go of a friendship does not make you cruel. Sometimes protecting your peace means quietly closing a chapter instead of forcing one more conversation.
Relationships

The Friends You Quietly Fire

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Perimenopause brought the heat—literally. In this honest (and slightly sweaty) reflection, I share what it’s really like to hit your 40s and find yourself battling hot flushes, sleepless nights, and unpredictable hormone shifts. This article explores the realities of perimenopause with humour and heart, offering insight into how I’m learning to navigate these changes with grace, self-compassion, and a fan always within reach.
My 40's

It Took Until My 40s to Get Hot – But Not in the Fun Way

15 June 202521 April 2026

I finally got hot in my 40s – night sweats, flushed cheeks, and zero chill. Spoiler: it’s not what teenage me had in mind.

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Living by rhythm, not reaction, is the ultimate form of self-respect—and luxury. In this article, I explore how shifting from urgency to intentional flow can transform your daily routine. From mindful mornings and nervous system regulation to setting boundaries around your time, this lifestyle encourages peace over pressure. Perfect for neurodivergent folks, recovering people-pleasers, or anyone craving a slower, more aligned way of living that feels like calm in motion.
Mindfulness My 40's

Living by Rhythm, Not Reaction: The Ultimate Luxury

13 June 202522 June 2025

True luxury? Waking up slow, stretching like a cat, and starting my day with rhythm – not reacting to chaos or someone else’s demands.

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Dopamine dressing is the colourful rebellion against the minimalist capsule wardrobe trend. In this article, I dive into why dressing for joy, emotion, and self-expression beats following rigid fashion rules. Learn how bold colours, texture, and personal style can boost your mood and confidence, and why curating a wardrobe that reflects your energy is the ultimate act of self-celebration. Because sometimes, beige just won’t cut it.
Style

Rage Against the Capsule Wardrobe

11 June 202522 June 2025

Capsule wardrobes bore me to tears. I dress for joy, not minimalism. Give me colour, drama, and a little dopamine chaos.

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It’s possible to feel angry at the state of the world without turning cold or cynical. In this gentle guide, we explore how to honour your anger, set boundaries, and process frustration in a way that protects your wellbeing. From media burnout to everyday injustices, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But staying soft, present, and grounded is a radical act. Learn how to channel your anger into clarity, resilience, and meaningful action—without losing yourself along the way.
Lifestyle

A Gentle Guide to Being Mad at the World Without Becoming a Full-Time Cynic

9 June 202522 June 2025

Some days I’m furious at the world – but I don’t want to live bitter. Here’s how I hold anger without letting it harden me.

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Doing laundry can feel like a personal betrayal, especially when you're already overwhelmed. In this relatable article, I explore the emotional weight behind daily chores like washing clothes, and why laundry often triggers stress, resentment, or even shame. Discover how routine tasks can reflect burnout, executive dysfunction, or simply the chaos of life. This isn't just about clean clothes—it's about reclaiming time, energy, and a bit of self-compassion along the way.
Home Neurospicy

Why Doing Laundry Feels Like A Personal Betrayal

9 June 202522 June 2025

Laundry makes me question everything. How dare Past Me wear so many outfits? This feels like betrayal… by my own clothes.

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After trauma, feeling safe in your body again can be a long and tender journey. In this deeply personal article, I share gentle practices that helped me rebuild trust, reconnect with my physical self, and soften into safety. From breathwork and grounding to mindful touch and nervous system support, this piece offers tools for emotional healing and embodiment. It’s not about rushing—just about learning to come home to yourself, one breath at a time.
Healing WellBeing

How to Feel Safe in Your Body Again After You Know What

8 June 202522 June 2025

Healing didn’t mean forgetting – it meant slowly learning to trust my body again, one small moment of safety at a time.

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This article reframes the much-memed concept of “girl dinner” as a radical act of self-love. Bry explores how assembling a plate of olives, cheese, crackers, and whatever’s in the fridge isn’t lazy or unserious — it’s intuitive eating, gentle nourishment, and choosing ease over pressure. In a world that demands perfection at every meal, girl dinner is a quiet rebellion. A celebration of autonomy, softness, and feeding yourself like someone you love.
Lifestyle WellBeing

Girl Dinner Is a Radical Act of Self-Love

6 June 202518 June 2025

Girl Dinner isn’t lazy. It’s loving. A plate of picky bits and peace? That’s care, not chaos.

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After being cheated on, it’s natural to feel anger, hurt, and a desire for revenge. But the most powerful response is healing. This article explores how to transform betrayal into personal growth, emotional strength, and self-worth. Real revenge isn’t about hurting back—it’s about rising, glowing, and choosing yourself. Learn how to process the pain, reclaim your power, and rebuild a life that’s more aligned, intentional, and full of self-love.
Healing Relationships

How To Get Revenge After Being Cheated On

4 June 202526 May 2025

I wanted revenge. But healing felt better. My peace, growth, and glow-up became the only answer I needed.

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Dopamine dressing doesn’t have to clash with your 9-to-5. In this article, I share how to bring colour, personality, and joy into your work wardrobe without being labelled ‘too much.’ From statement accessories to confident colour choices, these tips help you balance professional polish with self-expression. Perfect for neurodivergent or style-savvy folks who want to feel good and look good, even in the break room. Because beige is not a requirement for competence.
Style

How to Dopamine Dress for Work Without Getting Called ‘Too Much’

2 June 202522 June 2025

I like my outfits loud and my work email polite. Here’s how I dopamine dress at the office without HR staging an intervention.

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When The Wizard Liz was cheated on while pregnant, the internet collectively raged—and rightfully so. In this article, I unpack why bad men cheat on good women, and why it’s rarely about us being "not enough." It’s about control, immaturity, and their refusal to grow. We explore emotional manipulation, narcissism, and the myth of being the one who can fix them. If you’ve ever been betrayed by someone you trusted, this piece is the permission slip to take your power back.
Feminine Rage Relationships

Why Bad Men Cheat on Good Women

1 June 20251 June 2025

He slid into DMs. She slid into her power. Bad men cheat on good women – but it says more about them than it ever did about us.

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Using ChatGPT for self-reflection can be powerful, but sometimes it opens doors you didn’t realise were there. In this article, I share a personal experience of uncovering deep-rooted trauma through casual conversation with AI. What began as a moment of curiosity turned into an emotional deep dive. This piece explores the unexpected intensity of self-inquiry, emotional safety, and how to navigate digital tools for healing with care and intention.
Healing WellBeing

That Time I Therapised Too Close to the Sun

30 May 202531 May 2025

I just wanted clarity – but ended up unravelling decades of buried emotion. ChatGPT took me somewhere I wasn’t ready to go.

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This article offers gentle, practical tips for regulating your nervous system when you’re wired like a chaos goblin. Bry shares down-to-earth, ADHD-friendly techniques for grounding, calming, and rebalancing your frazzled brain — without pretending you’re a serene wellness guru. From sensory resets to nervous system hacks that actually work, it’s a playful yet soothing guide for anyone living with overstimulation, stress, and general emotional spaghetti.
WellBeing

How to Regulate Your Nervous System as a Chaos Goblin

28 May 202518 June 2025

I’m a chaos goblin with a frazzled brain and 43 tabs open. Regulating my nervous system is a daily act of rebellion.

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Slow roasted tomato pasta. Yesterday, I came home Slow roasted tomato pasta. Yesterday, I came home from a boring date, it was raining, so I slow roasted tomatoes until the whole place smelled incredible and I remembered that food has never once let me down. There is something deeply meditative about slow roasting tomatoes in the oven, olive oil pooling, everything softening and sweetening and becoming more itself. No small talk. No performance. Just the kind of lunch that makes you feel like your afternoon is worth something. Recipes are back. Relationships are optional.
What a distinguished gentleman. What a distinguished gentleman.
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Leaving Adelaide? Easy. Leaving the people I love? Leaving Adelaide? Easy. Leaving the people I love? Not even a little bit. This city gave me what I needed – time to heal, to grow, to fall apart and rebuild in ways I didn’t expect. I’ve laughed until I cried in kitchens and gardens. Danced in my pjs, cried on couches, shared secrets over matcha and wine. Some of you held me through the darkest parts of my life. Some of you reminded me how it feels to be light again. It’s time for the next chapter now. But my heart is heavy in the best way – full of every moment we’ve shared. I’ll miss you more than I can put into words xx
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