Mindfulness Archives ~ Life & Style with Bry Jaimea

Nobody talks about the version of quitting drinking that does not come with a dramatic rock bottom or a clinical intervention. The quiet version. The one where you just look at your life and decide that alcohol is no longer adding what it once did, and that the hangovers, the anxiety, the two day recoveries are no longer a trade you want to make. This is for the women considering quitting or cutting back without needing a reason big enough to justify it to anyone else. You do not need a story. You do not need a label. You just need to decide, and that decision is allowed to be enough.

You Don’t Need a Reason to Quit Drinking

28 August 20266 September 2026

Quitting drinking does not require a rock bottom moment or a label. Sometimes you just decide you are done and that is enough.

There is a version of gut instinct that is not instinct at all. It is your nervous system in survival mode, your unprocessed grief looking for an exit, your pain making decisions and calling it clarity. I made a choice I thought was brave and intentional and it took me an embarrassingly long time to realise it was neither. This is an honest look at the difference between regulated intuition and dysregulated impulse, how to tell which one is actually driving, and what happens when you finally learn to make choices from a place of calm rather than a place of quiet desperation.

Healing Mindfulness

Oops, I Regret A Life Choice

1 June 202620 May 2026

Turns out some of my boldest life choices were not intuition at all. They were grief wearing a very convincing disguise.

That creeping dread that arrives somewhere around 4pm on a Sunday is not just about the week ahead. It is your body flagging something real, and it deserves more than being white knuckled through until Monday arrives. This is an honest look at what the Sunday Scaries actually are, why they hit some of us harder than others, and what genuinely helps versus what just distracts you until bedtime. Practical, honest, and written by someone who has spent years treating Sunday evenings like a problem to survive rather than something worth actually understanding.

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Let’s Chat About the Sunday Scaries

4 May 202619 April 2026

The Sunday Scaries are not just anxiety about Monday. They are your nervous system sending up a flare about something worth listening to.

We all carry an imagined version of the woman we thought we would become. In this article, I explore the quiet grief of letting go of that former blueprint, whether it involved career milestones, relationships, motherhood, or lifestyle dreams. Growth often means releasing expectations shaped by youth, culture, or pressure. This piece examines identity shifts, self-acceptance, and redefining success on your own terms. Letting go is not failure. It is the beginning of living in alignment with who you truly are now.

Mindfulness My 40's

Letting Go of the Woman You Thought You’d Be

16 March 202621 February 2026

I had a blueprint for who I’d become. Letting her go hurt, but she made room for the woman I actually am.

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The Art of Catastrophising

2 March 202626 February 2026

I am a gold medallist catastrophiser and I finally wrote the guide I wish someone had handed me before my brain went full disaster spiral.

Changing your mind about what you want is not failure. It is evolution. In this article, I explore how goals, relationships, careers, and identities naturally shift as we gain experience and self-awareness. From outgrowing old dreams to redefining success, this piece challenges the pressure to stay consistent for the sake of appearances. Personal growth often means reassessing desires and choosing differently. You are allowed to pivot, recalibrate, and want something new without apologising for who you used to be.

Mindfulness My 40's

You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind About What You Want

18 February 20262 March 2026

I wanted one life at 25, another at 35, and something softer now. Changing your mind isn’t flaky. It’s growth.

I spent years absorbing problems that had nothing to do with me, contorting myself to fix things I never broke, and exhausting my nervous system on other people's chaos. Then I discovered the genuine, almost spiritual joy of saying "that is not my problem" and meaning it. This is not about being cold or checked out. It is about recognising where your responsibility actually ends. I walk through how I learned to put down what was never mine to carry, and why protecting your energy is not selfish, it is necessary.

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Embracing “That’s Not My Problem” With Joy

6 February 202626 February 2026

I discovered the joy of “that’s not my problem” and it genuinely changed how much mental energy I waste on things that were never mine to carry.

Perfectionism is often disguised as discipline, but it can quietly drain your energy and confidence. In this article, I explore the life-changing relief of doing things half-arsed and why it often leads to better consistency, less burnout, and more progress. From work and creativity to self-care and routines, lowering the bar can actually help you show up more often. This is about letting go of all-or-nothing thinking and embracing effort that is sustainable, human, and kind to your nervous system.

Mindfulness Self-Care

The Life-Changing Magic of Doing Things Half-Arsed

28 July 202513 December 2025

Doing things half-arsed saved my sanity. Perfection nearly broke me, but showing up halfway changed everything.

Living by rhythm, not reaction, is the ultimate form of self-respect—and luxury. In this article, I explore how shifting from urgency to intentional flow can transform your daily routine. From mindful mornings and nervous system regulation to setting boundaries around your time, this lifestyle encourages peace over pressure. Perfect for neurodivergent folks, recovering people-pleasers, or anyone craving a slower, more aligned way of living that feels like calm in motion.

Mindfulness My 40's

Living by Rhythm, Not Reaction: The Ultimate Luxury

13 June 202522 June 2025

True luxury? Waking up slow, stretching like a cat, and starting my day with rhythm – not reacting to chaos or someone else’s demands.

Wellness culture told me that linen sheets and lemon water would fix everything—but real healing isn’t that aesthetic. In this candid article, I unpack the curated lies we’re sold about self-care, and what it actually means to feel well. From burnout masked as balance to the pressure of performing calm, this piece explores the difference between looking like you have it together and truly feeling grounded within yourself.

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Linen, Lemon Water, and Lies

21 May 202521 May 2025

I bought the linen, drank the lemon water, and still felt like a mess. Turns out, wellness isn’t one-size-fits-all perfection.

Journalling isn’t for everyone—and that’s perfectly valid. In this honest take, I explore why traditional journalling never worked for me, despite its popularity in wellness spaces. From pressure to be insightful to the overwhelm of a blank page, this article offers an alternative view on self-reflection. If you’ve ever felt guilty for not loving journalling, you’re not alone. Discover other mindful ways to process emotions and support your mental health without forcing the pen.

Healing Mindfulness

Journalling Sucks. There, I Said It.

28 April 202517 May 2025

I’ve tried to love journalling. I really have. But honestly? It stresses me out more than it soothes. And that’s okay.

You don’t have to be perfectly organised to live a mindful life. In this playful yet grounded article, we explore how embracing your inner chaos goblin—messy habits, quirks, and all—can coexist with self-awareness and growth. Mindfulness isn’t about perfection, it’s about presence. Learn how to soften into your imperfections, find joy in the mess, and make space for a life that’s both intentional and delightfully human.

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How to Embrace Your Inner Chaos Goblin, Mindfully

16 April 202518 June 2025

Yes, I drink tea out of wine glasses and forget laundry in the machine. Embracing my chaos has been oddly grounding.

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You Don’t Need a Reason to Quit Drinking

Oops, I Regret A Life Choice

Let’s Chat About the Sunday Scaries

Letting Go of the Woman You Thought You’d Be

The Art of Catastrophising

You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind About What You Want

Embracing “That’s Not My Problem” With Joy

The Life-Changing Magic of Doing Things Half-Arsed

Living by Rhythm, Not Reaction: The Ultimate Luxury

Linen, Lemon Water, and Lies

Journalling Sucks. There, I Said It.

How to Embrace Your Inner Chaos Goblin, Mindfully

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