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A hair change is never really just a hair change. It is a declaration. A quiet, slightly dramatic announcement to yourself and everyone around you that something has shifted and you are no longer interested in looking like the person you were before. This is about the psychology behind why we reach for the scissors or the colour when life gets complicated, what it actually means when a new cut makes you stand differently, and why changing your hair is one of the most underrated forms of self authorship available to any of us at any given moment.
Style

Change Your Hair, Change Your Life

Burnout does not arrive dramatically. It creeps in quietly until one day you are staring at a simple task like it is written in a foreign language and you cannot remember what it felt like to not be exhausted. Recovery is not a weekend off or a wellness retreat. It is slower, less aesthetic, and considerably more boring than anyone on the internet makes it look. This is the practical guide to actually recovering, what helped, what was useless, how long it really takes, and why the most important thing I did was stop pretending I was fine before I actually was.
Healing

A Very Practical Guide to Recovering from Burnout

Every time a woman does not report what happened to her, someone asks why. The answer is not simple, not comfortable, and not something that reflects on her. It reflects on the systems, the cultures, and the rooms full of people who made it clear, long before she ever had to decide, that her account would be questioned, minimised, or used against her. This is an honest and unflinching look at the real reasons women stay silent, written without judgment for every woman who made that calculation and chose to protect herself instead.
Feminine Rage

Why Women Don’t Report It

Life has a way of making us practical, serious, and quietly joyless. In this article, I explore how to reclaim whimsy through small, everyday moments that make life feel lighter. From wearing the good shoes and feeding birds to buying fresh flowers or dancing in the kitchen, these tiny acts can shift your mindset without requiring a complete life overhaul. It is a guide to embracing curiosity, playfulness, and delight, proving that growing up does not mean giving up your sense of wonder.
Self-Care

How to Stop Being an Unwhimsical Bitch

The options are right there, rotating past on a little conveyor belt of possibility, and yet somehow you end up sitting across from someone who leads with their gym routine and calls it personality. Bumble promised us agency and delivered us a paradox of choice with worse outcomes. This is an honest, slightly exhausted, occasionally funny look at what dating apps actually deliver versus what they sell us, why having more options is not the same as having better ones, and what it feels like to swipe through the whole sushi train and still go home and make toast.
Relationships

Bumble Is a Sushi Train and We’re All Going Home Hungry

Not every friendship breakup is dramatic. Sometimes you simply stop making the effort. In this article, I explore the quiet friendships we outgrow and the difficult decision to let them fade without resentment or conflict. From one-sided relationships and mismatched values to emotional exhaustion, this piece examines why some connections naturally reach their end. Letting go of a friendship does not make you cruel. Sometimes protecting your peace means quietly closing a chapter instead of forcing one more conversation.
Relationships

The Friends You Quietly Fire

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Rainy days offer the perfect excuse to slow down and recharge. In this guide, I share how to create a comforting rainy day routine that soothes the soul, from warm drinks and soft blankets to mindful moments that turn grey skies into a chance for self-care. Whether you crave productivity or relaxation, these simple tips will help you embrace the rain and make the most of your day. Get ready to cosy up, unwind, and find joy in the little things.
Rituals & Routines

Cosy Rituals for Rainy Days (and Sleepy Brains)

26 May 20251 June 2025

Rainy days are my reset button. No pressure, no performance – just warm socks, soft lighting, and being gloriously still.

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This article shares the story of how Bry adopted Lucifer (aka Lulu), a mischievous black cat, during a time of deep grief and heartbreak. Hoping for calm and emotional stability, she instead found a scrappy, affectionate whirlwind who clawed his way straight into her heart. A tender, funny reflection on unexpected healing, pet companionship, and how love sometimes arrives in the form of a needy, chaotic furball.
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I Wanted Emotional Stability, I Found Lucifer Instead

25 May 202517 May 2025

I was craving emotional stability. The universe sent me Lucifer: chaotic, fluffy, mildly evil… and exactly what I needed.

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This article explores the unexpected ways life can blindside us emotionally, much like biting into a jaffle and hitting a pocket of boiling hot tomato. Bry uses this deliciously relatable metaphor to talk about emotional ambush, hidden grief, and moments that sting when you least expect it. A warm, witty reflection on vulnerability, healing, and why we sometimes need to let things cool before we try to swallow them whole.
Healing

The Jaffle of Emotional Ambush

23 May 202522 May 2025

Life’s like a jaffle – looks fine on the outside, but sometimes you bite in and get scalded by a surprise tomato of feelings.

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Wellness culture told me that linen sheets and lemon water would fix everything—but real healing isn’t that aesthetic. In this candid article, I unpack the curated lies we’re sold about self-care, and what it actually means to feel well. From burnout masked as balance to the pressure of performing calm, this piece explores the difference between looking like you have it together and truly feeling grounded within yourself.
Mindfulness

Linen, Lemon Water, and Lies

21 May 202521 May 2025

I bought the linen, drank the lemon water, and still felt like a mess. Turns out, wellness isn’t one-size-fits-all perfection.

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Spoon Theory is a powerful framework for understanding and managing limited energy, especially for those with chronic illness, fatigue, or neurodivergence. In this article, I break down what Spoon Theory is and how I use it to structure my day, prioritise tasks, and avoid burnout. Learn practical tips for energy management, setting boundaries, and embracing self-awareness when your spoons are running low. Because planning with compassion makes all the difference.
Neurospicy WellBeing

Spoon Theory 101: Planning Your Day When Energy is Limited

19 May 202518 June 2025

Some days I’ve only got one spoon and a cat to feed. Spoon Theory saved my sanity – here’s how I plan around limited energy.

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This article shares an unlikely sleep hack: using maladaptive daydreaming to drift off. Bry explains how imagining detailed magical bureaucracy — from enchanted filing cabinets to spell-regulated HR forms — gently bores her brain into sleep. It's soothing, oddly satisfying, and perfect for overthinkers who need distraction without excitement. A quirky, comforting tip for anyone battling racing thoughts at bedtime.
Rituals & Routines

This Sleep Hack Shouldn’t Work (But Does)

18 May 202517 May 2025

I lull myself to sleep with magical admin tasks and imaginary filing systems. It shouldn’t work. But somehow, it does.

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This article unpacks the myth of the "chill girl" and why Bry chose to leave her behind. Once praised for being easygoing and undemanding, she now sees how that role muted her needs, voice, and self-worth. Exploring gender expectations, emotional suppression, and the cost of being agreeable, this piece is a gentle but honest call to stop shrinking for comfort. Being chill isn’t the goal — being real, messy, and fully seen is.
Relationships

Why I’m No Longer the Chill Girl

16 May 202518 June 2025

I used to be the chill girl – low needs, low drama, low everything. Turns out, I just wasn’t speaking up for myself.

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Choosing solitude over socialising isn’t a flaw—it’s a form of self-respect. In this article, I share why alone time feels more nourishing than constant connection, especially in a world that praises extroversion. From recharging my energy to deepening self-awareness, solitude has become a cornerstone of my wellbeing. Learn how embracing alone time can support mental health, intentional living, and a stronger connection to yourself.
My 40's Neurospicy WellBeing

Why I Prefer Solitude Over Socialising (And That’s OK)

14 May 202518 June 2025

I used to force myself to show up. Now I honour what I need – and often, that’s quiet, calm, and my own beautiful company.

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For so long, I tried to shrink myself—tone it down, take up less space, be easier to digest. But the truth is, being too much was never the problem. The real issue? A world that tells us we need to be smaller to be accepted. In this episode, I talk about reclaiming the parts of ourselves we were told to hide, why we were never too much, and how to own our space without apology. If you have ever felt like you had to dim your light, this one is for you.
WellBeing

Being ‘Too Much’ Was Never Your Problem

12 May 202517 May 2025

I spent years trying to be less – quieter, smaller, easier to handle. But being ‘too much’ was never the problem. It never was.

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This article reflects on the generational impact of young marriages, exploring how many of our mothers were wives before they were women. Married off as teenagers, they raised children while still children themselves, with little space for personal dreams or growth. A powerful look at generational trauma, identity loss, and the inherited weight of girlhood sacrificed too soon — and what healing might look like for the daughters who followed.
Feminine Rage Relationships

Before She Was a Woman, She Was a Wife

11 May 202525 July 2026

My mum was a wife before she was even grown. This one’s for every girl who never got the chance to just be a girl first.

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In a world where access to mental health support isn’t always easy or affordable, using ChatGPT as a tool for self-reflection can offer surprising clarity. This article explores how AI can help process emotions, challenge thought patterns, and support personal growth. While it’s not a substitute for professional therapy, for many it provides a safe space to unpack feelings, gain perspective, and practise emotional resilience—without judgement or pressure.
Healing Self-Care

I Use ChatGPT as a Therapist. So What?

9 May 202517 May 2025

Some days I just need to vent, reflect, or feel heard. ChatGPT helps me do that – and honestly, it’s been surprisingly healing.

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Turning 42 has me wondering: am I finally a grown-up, or just excellent at pretending? In this birthday reflection, I explore what adulthood actually feels like—beyond the bills, responsibilities, and skincare routines. From quiet confidence to lingering doubt, this article touches on identity, ageing, and the gentle art of growing into yourself. Whether you feel ahead or behind, here’s to making peace with the messiness of becoming.
My 40's

Am I Finally a Grown-Up, or Just Really Good at Faking It?

7 May 202517 May 2025

I’m 42 today. I own moisturiser and a clothes dryer – but I still feel like I’m winging it. Is this adulthood, or improv?

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Slow roasted tomato pasta. Yesterday, I came home Slow roasted tomato pasta.
Yesterday, I came home from a boring date, it was raining, so I slow roasted tomatoes until the whole place smelled incredible and I remembered that food has never once let me down. 
There is something deeply meditative about slow roasting tomatoes in the oven, olive oil pooling, everything softening and sweetening and becoming more itself. No small talk. No performance. Just the kind of lunch that makes you feel like your afternoon is worth something. 
Recipes are back. 
Relationships are optional.
What a distinguished gentleman. What a distinguished gentleman.
No caption. Just vibes. No caption. Just vibes.
Leaving Adelaide? Easy. Leaving the people I love? Leaving Adelaide? Easy.
Leaving the people I love? Not even a little bit.

This city gave me what I needed – time to heal, to grow, to fall apart and rebuild in ways I didn’t expect. I’ve laughed until I cried in kitchens and gardens. Danced in my pjs, cried on couches, shared secrets over matcha and wine. Some of you held me through the darkest parts of my life. Some of you reminded me how it feels to be light again.

It’s time for the next chapter now. But my heart is heavy in the best way – full of every moment we’ve shared. I’ll miss you more than I can put into words xx
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