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Ethical fashion conversations often place responsibility on individual shoppers while ignoring affordability, access, and the complexity of global clothing supply chains. In this article, I explore the privilege behind telling people to simply stop shopping at Shein and other fast fashion retailers. From expensive “ethical” clothing to questions about fabrics, factories, wages, and overconsumption, this is a more nuanced look at conscious shopping. You can care about fashion ethics without shaming people for buying what they can afford.
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It’s Ok to Buy the Thing From SheIn

Some of us were just not built for beige. Not the personality, not the wardrobe, not the carefully curated inoffensiveness of it all. And yet there are rooms, situations, moments where standing out feels less like a superpower and more like an inconvenience you cannot switch off. This is about navigating the spaces that want you smaller without actually becoming smaller, how to dial it back strategically without losing yourself entirely, and why the women who were born to stand out usually spend the first half of their lives apologising for it before realising it was the best thing about them all along.
Chaos Goblin Style

How to Blend in When You’re Born to Stand Out

Emotional regulation can look far more ordinary than wellness culture makes it seem. In this article, I share ten practical ways to regulate emotions in everyday life, from taking space and eating something to changing your environment, moving your body, or choosing not to react immediately. These simple strategies can help create pause, perspective, and steadiness during stressful moments. Regulation does not have to be aesthetic, complicated, or perfect. Sometimes the smallest response is the one that changes everything.
Self-Care

Ten Things That Count as Emotional Regulation

Red flags are not exclusive to romantic relationships. Friendships can become unhealthy too, yet we often excuse behaviour from friends that we would never tolerate from a partner. In this article, I explore the friendship red flags we commonly overlook, from one-sided effort and subtle competition to disrespect, poor boundaries, and emotional exhaustion. Recognising toxic friendship patterns does not mean abandoning people at the first problem. It means knowing when loyalty is costing you more than the friendship gives back
Relationships

The Red Flags We Overlook

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Podcast: You Are Not Entitled to an Answer

Australian summer brings brutal heat, relentless humidity, scorching sun, summer storms, and days when leaving the air conditioning feels deeply unreasonable. In this article, I share practical ways to survive summer in Australia, from keeping your home and body cool to planning errands around the heat, staying comfortable at night, and making hot weather feel slightly less hostile. Whether you love summer or merely endure it, these simple strategies can make the hottest months easier, calmer, and considerably less sweaty.
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How to Survive the Australian Summer

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Red lipstick has a reputation for being a statement, which is exactly why so many of us stopped wearing it. Too much. Too bold. Too much effort for a regular Tuesday. This is about finding your way back to the things that used to make you feel like yourself, using red lipstick as the entry point. About reclaiming small acts of visible confidence. About wearing the thing not for occasion or audience but simply because it makes you stand differently in a room and you had forgotten how much you liked that feeling.
Style

The Forgotten Joy of Red Lipstick

13 February 202619 April 2026

Red lipstick used to feel bold and joyful. I forgot that power for a while, then remembered how alive it makes me feel.

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Style is not just about clothes. For me, good skin is part of my overall style philosophy. In this article, I explore how skincare supports confidence, simplicity, and self-expression, especially as trends come and go. When your skin feels healthy and cared for, getting dressed becomes easier and more intuitive. This piece looks at skincare as a practical, grounding element of personal style rather than vanity, and why investing in skin health can be just as impactful as investing in your wardrobe.
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Why Good Skin Should Be Part of Your Style Philosophy

11 February 20261 January 2026

Good skin is my foundation. It lets me dress simply, boldly, or chaotically and still feel put together and confident.

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Buying clothes you actually wear requires honesty, not impulse. In this article, I share ten practical rules for shopping with intention, so your wardrobe works for your real body, lifestyle, and preferences. From fit and fabric to repeat wear and emotional spending, these guidelines help reduce regret and overconsumption. Whether you are rebuilding your style, navigating body changes, or tired of unworn clothes with tags still on, this piece focuses on making smarter choices that last beyond the change room mirror.
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5 Rules for Buying Clothes You’ll Actually Wear

9 February 20261 January 2026

I stopped buying fantasy clothes and started dressing for real life. These rules saved my wardrobe and my bank account.

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I spent years absorbing problems that had nothing to do with me, contorting myself to fix things I never broke, and exhausting my nervous system on other people's chaos. Then I discovered the genuine, almost spiritual joy of saying "that is not my problem" and meaning it. This is not about being cold or checked out. It is about recognising where your responsibility actually ends. I walk through how I learned to put down what was never mine to carry, and why protecting your energy is not selfish, it is necessary.
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Embracing “That’s Not My Problem” With Joy

6 February 202626 February 2026

I discovered the joy of “that’s not my problem” and it genuinely changed how much mental energy I waste on things that were never mine to carry.

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Healing does not happen in a vacuum. In this article, I explore why true healing is so difficult within the same patriarchal systems that caused the harm in the first place. From people-pleasing and emotional labour to internalised guilt and self-abandonment, the patriarchy shapes how we cope, survive, and stay silent. This piece looks at reclaiming autonomy, boundaries, and self-trust as acts of resistance. Healing is not just personal work, it is unlearning systems that benefitted from your pain and learning how to choose yourself anyway.
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You Can’t Heal in the Same Patriarchy That Hurt You

4 February 202630 December 2025

The system that hurt us won’t heal us. The patriarchy keeps women small, even as we outpace it. I’m done shrinking.

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Navigating the shopping centre can feel thrilling in the moment and painful thirty days later. In this article, I share practical, realistic ways to shop without sabotaging your finances or your nervous system. From impulse spending and emotional buying to budgeting with compassion, this piece explores how to enjoy retail therapy while staying grounded in reality. It is about making intentional choices, understanding spending triggers, and learning how to leave the shoppies feeling satisfied rather than stressed when the bill arrives.
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Navigating The Shoppies Without Crying Over Your Credit Card

2 February 202621 April 2026

I love a bargain, hate regret, and fear my credit card statement. Here’s how I survive the shoppies without future tears.

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Turning a rental into a romcom-ready space is less about perfection and more about intention. In this article, I share how fairy lights, fresh sheets, and a little bit of hopeful delusion helped me create a home that feels romantic, comforting, and alive. From decorating through heartbreak to using your space as emotional armour, this piece explores how our homes reflect our inner lives. Sometimes making your home beautiful isn’t about impressing anyone else. It’s about reminding yourself that joy and possibility are still allowed.
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Fairy Lights, Fresh Sheets, and Delusion: My Romcom-Ready Rental

30 January 202627 February 2026

If I decorate like I’m expecting a meetcute, who’s to say one won’t happen? Fairy lights and fresh sheets say yes to delusion.

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Distractions can derail even the best intentions, but intentional focus can help you reclaim your time and energy. This guide offers strategies to minimise interruptions, manage your attention, and stay present in the moment. Learn practical tips like prioritisation, mindful time-blocking, and reducing digital noise to boost productivity and clarity. Whether you're tackling work or personal goals, these techniques will help you overcome distractions and maintain purposeful focus.
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Finding Joy in Everyday Moments

28 January 20267 September 2026

I’ve learned to find joy in the smallest moments, and it’s changed my life. Let me share how you can embrace everyday magic too.

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Grounding does not have to involve yoga, breathwork, or buying another course. In this article, I share eight simple, accessible grounding habits that support nervous system regulation without spiritual jargon or financial pressure. From sensory comfort and routine to movement, focus, and everyday anchors, these practices are designed for real life, not wellness aesthetics. Ideal for anyone who feels overwhelmed, burnt out, or resistant to traditional self-care advice, this piece offers practical ways to feel steadier using what you already have.
Self-Care

8 Grounding Habits That Don’t Involve Yoga, Breathwork or Buying a Course

26 January 202623 December 2025

I ground myself without yoga mats, deep breaths, or online courses. Just real habits that actually work in real life.

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I didn’t lose myself overnight. I stopped choosing myself in small ways, until I noticed. This is how I came back.
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How I Stopped Abandoning Myself

23 January 202623 January 2026

I didn’t lose myself overnight. I stopped choosing myself in small ways, until I noticed. This is how I came back.

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Beautiful dishes are not reserved for guests or special occasions. In this article, I explore why using the plates, bowls, and mugs you love every day is a quiet act of self-respect. From shifting out of scarcity thinking to finding joy in ordinary routines, this piece looks at how small aesthetic choices can improve mood, presence, and daily satisfaction. Whether it is toast, leftovers, or a quick snack, you deserve to experience beauty in the everyday, not save it for later.
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You Deserve Beautiful Dishes – Even If It’s Just For Toast

21 January 202623 December 2025

I eat toast off a beautiful plate because my life deserves nice things, even on ordinary mornings with crumbs and butter.

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Healing rarely looks the way we expect it to. In this article, I explore seven subtle signs that you are healing, even when it feels like you are falling apart or standing still. From stronger boundaries and emotional awareness to discomfort with old patterns, healing often shows up quietly before it feels good. This piece offers reassurance for anyone who feels stuck, behind, or frustrated with their progress. Growth is not always visible, but that does not mean it is not real.
Healing

7 Signs You’re Healing Even If It Doesn’t Look Like It

19 January 202621 December 2025

Healing isn’t always calm or pretty. Sometimes it looks messy, slow, and uncomfortable, but it’s still happening.

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Slow roasted tomato pasta. Yesterday, I came home Slow roasted tomato pasta. Yesterday, I came home from a boring date, it was raining, so I slow roasted tomatoes until the whole place smelled incredible and I remembered that food has never once let me down. There is something deeply meditative about slow roasting tomatoes in the oven, olive oil pooling, everything softening and sweetening and becoming more itself. No small talk. No performance. Just the kind of lunch that makes you feel like your afternoon is worth something. Recipes are back. Relationships are optional.
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Leaving Adelaide? Easy. Leaving the people I love? Leaving Adelaide? Easy. Leaving the people I love? Not even a little bit. This city gave me what I needed – time to heal, to grow, to fall apart and rebuild in ways I didn’t expect. I’ve laughed until I cried in kitchens and gardens. Danced in my pjs, cried on couches, shared secrets over matcha and wine. Some of you held me through the darkest parts of my life. Some of you reminded me how it feels to be light again. It’s time for the next chapter now. But my heart is heavy in the best way – full of every moment we’ve shared. I’ll miss you more than I can put into words xx
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