How to Write for your Heart
I have been writing for as long as I remember. In fact, I remember sitting in an oversized chair, tapping away at my dad’s PC using DOS Word to write fantastical stories about princesses and monsters.
My writing first started out as poetry, but as a teen developed into screen plays (for Drama class) and short stories. Writing is my passion, and it’s one of the few things about myself I truly, fuly believe in. I know, believe and trust in myself that I can string sentences together in a way that is pleasing to read, and others seem to agree which always makes me happy. Throughout school I was sent to poetry courses, met some of Australia’s prolific poets, and even had work published (under a pseudonym).
In fact, throughout the years and hundreds of short stories and poems written, I have received a lot positive feedback saying that my writing is emotive, evocative, and engulfing.
Unfortunately, all people who write – whether it’s poetry, stories, blogs et al – also receive negative feedback and criticism, however sometimes this borders on bullying. I fully encourage criticism when it’s constructive, but too many people provide negative feedback in a manner purely designed to hurt. Tell me I need to focus on grammar or sentence structure and I will work on it, the feedback noted and helping me to become better.
However, tell me that my writing style is too complicated*? Pick up a damned dictionary and improve your vocabulary rather than expecting me to write at your reading comprehension level. Compare me to Hemingway, Tolstoy or Dickens and tell me I fail by comparison**? How does that help me to evolve my style of writing when they are so far removed from my style of writing it’s not even apples and oranges, it’s apples and orangutans.
What I am trying to say, is that although we should all accept both positive and negative feedback, sometimes people are simply out there to hurt you, and to bring you down and we have all experienced this, but we need to learn to differentiate between constructive criticism and plain old criticism.
It’s too easy to focus on the negative, to let hard and harsh words affect us, bring us down, and kill our enthusiasm for our passions. When you write, and put it out there for the world to see, you are exposing a piece of yourself and it’s just unfortunate some people will want to bring you down, rather than help you build yourself up.
Whether it’s your blog you are writing, or a novel, write from your heart and don’t let anybody get in your way from your passion! Write first and foremost for yourself, and then worry about your readers – you can never please everyone so don’t make that your goal or your aim in writing.
Just always write from your heart, writing the truest words you can.
Keep strong, and keep writing!
*Yes, this was real feedback I received. Someone told me that my writing was terrible, that it too niche, and not marketable. After a glass of wine or (or four) they finally admitted they couldn’t understand the vocabulary used within my stories and so considered my writing bad. I told them to pick up a dictionary and that it wasn’t my fault they were limited to a two-syllable mindset.
**Again, real feedback received whilst on a date. Needless to say I didn’t see him again.