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The Importance of Self Care

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The past week or so I have been so sick with a bug that I caught in the office when I got back from Berlin. I’ve spent the past two days up curled up in bed, unable to move so this post is pretty apt for me right now! It’s all about Self Care, and the importance thereof.

These days, us millennials are so busy trying to balance our careers, our side hustle, families, friends, continuing education (via TED talks, travel, podcasts, etc), and eating avocado toast, we sometimes forget to focus on what is possibly the most important thing in our lives – ourselves. This is why Self Care is trending, and growing in both awareness and popularity. But seeing it being discussed on Twitter or pinned on Pinterest, doesn’t mean we actually know what it is.

What is Self Care?

Well, first things first – Self Care isn’t just a visit to Lush and ticking a box in our bullet journals. Self Care is about caring for ourselves on an emotional, psychological and physical level. It’s about deliberately nurturing ourselves and intentionally taking the time to ensure we are promoting our own well-being.

The aim is to reduce anxiety, reduce stress, and for a moment to remember to treat ourselves properly, because considering how busy we all are it’s easy to forget the little things – like our own sanity.

Where do I start?

Filling a bathtub with bubbles, lighting a candle or two, and locking the bathroom door is all good and fine, yet Self Care isn’t an occasional treat to yourself.

It’s small changes to our everyday life and lifestyle.

Start off small and stick with the basics such an ensuring you get enough sleep, eating properly, and developing a routine. Over time, you will gradually be able to include more Self Care activities into this routine in a holistic manner that won’t divert your time from your other priorities – you’ll simply improve the way you approach them.

Are there rules?

Self Care is different for everyone – not everyone loves and cares in the same way, after all.

However, there’s a few basics to help you on your way. Remember, Self Care isn’t just about changing what we do, but also about the way we think.

Say No

There is nothing wrong with declining offers and saying no, especially if it’s something you don’t like or care for. Saying no isn’t selfish – it’s self preservation.

Eat Better

This will mean different things to different people, but it may be as simple to adding extra vegetables to your plate, taking a multivitamin, or switching from Vodka and Coke to Vodka Soda.

Sleep More

I’ve spoken before about getting enough sleep, and most people aren’t getting enough. No one falls asleep the second they hit the pillow, so it’s essential to ensure you take into consideration this extra time of non-sleep when calculating your bedtime each evening.

Be Active

Let’s not go crazy and buy a gym membership, but increasing your activity helps increase serotonin levels, which of course improves your mood. Being more active can be as simple as taking the stairs instead of an escalator, or walking to the shops instead of driving.

Get Disconnected

This is a tough one, but it’s important to take some time every day away from stress and responsibility in order to relax. Whether it’s meditation, a walk through the park, or an extra long shower, disconnecting from the world, even for 15 minutes, will help you refocus on yourself and clear your mind.

Self Care Activities

Now that we know what Self Care is and have started thinking differently about our own health and wellbeing, it’s time to start including acts of Self Care to our agendas – Yes, it’s time to go to Lush!

Lush aside, there are innumerable ways to look after yourself, so here’s a few ideas to get you on your way:

Relax and Read

Grab your favourite book (or that one you’ve mean meaning to start), sit back, relax, and commit to yourself to finish what you start – whether it’s a set number of pages, chapters, or the whole book!

Bubbles and Bublé

Ok, so it may not have to be Bublé, per se, but pour yourself a glass of bubbles, put on some fun music, and enjoy yourself, the music and the moment.

Baths and Bombs

Bathbombs, or fragrant oils, are the easiest way to take bathtime to the next level. It’s not just about relaxing, it’s about creating a sensory experience that includes vivid colours and rich aromas.

Retreat and write

Writing is a great way to retreat from reality and take some time for yourself. You can write poetry, stories, a journal, a mind map, or anything else that helps take the words and thoughts from one place, and sets them to paper.

Engage and Exercise

Whether it’s your mind or your body, taking time to yourself to engage and exercise is all about ensuring both physical and mental health. Engage in activities that get you active, or activities that make you think – the brain needs exercise too!

Tell me, do you think Self Care is important? How do you ensure you look after yourself – mind, body, and soul?

Also, the new blog theme and layout, design and look is up! Do you like it? Let me know in the comments! I’ll be posting soon about my experience with going self-hosting.









  • I love the new layout! I’m having a hard time finding the like button, though. I definitely think self-care is important, and I’ve been working on it. I still eat unhealthily, but I try to exercise everyday. I also try to do more stretching, write diary entries, and occasionally listen to guided meditations. I think one big thing I’ve learned to integrate into my daily life is drinking enough water! I’ve noticed that when I feel very groggy or irritable sometimes, it’s because I didn’t hydrate myself.

    • Can you see the “like” button above the “Related posts” and share buttons? It’s been difficult getting this off the ground tbh haha, so any errors or bugs you see, please let me know!!

      Do you drink green tea? It’s a great way of incorporating more water into your routine whilst also benefiting from all the antioxidants, etc! xx

      • I see the related posts but not the like button or share buttons, either, actually.

        I do drink green tea! It is really great. I like all types of tea, my favorite being peppermint. I like to drink them and read about their benefits on line at the same time so I know how they’re helping me as I’m drinking them.

        • Ok, that’s a problem I don’t know how to fix! I can see them on my end, above the related posts… Gak.

          hahaha!! that sounds like the perfect self care pasttime!!

  • One more thing, when I click “post comment” the box just disappears and I get no confirmation my message went through ><

    • Ooh, thank you – I will look into this!!

  • I see the related posts but not the like button or share buttons, either, actually.

    I do drink green tea! It is really great. I like all types of tea, my favorite being peppermint. I like to drink them and read about their benefits on line at the same time so I know how they’re helping me as I’m drinking them.

    I couldn’t reply on WordPress for some reason, so am leaving the comment here as a new one rather than a reply.

    • Oh no 🙁 My blog is broken :(: ( 🙁

      • Nooo you can fix it! You’re still in beta phase!

  • Nooooo you can fix it! You’re still in beta phase!

    • I’m going to change the commenting system to Disqus rather than JetPack/Wordpress 🙁

  • That could let more people outside the WordPress universe comment, but that also means WordPress followers have to make disqus accounts right? Not that that’s too hard, though. Let me know how that goes! Maybe in the future, I will use that, too!

    • Most of the blogs I comment on use it, so I am hoping (kinda blondly [typo, but I’m keeping it. I meant to say “Blindly”]) most people are cool having one? Gak. 🙁

  • I’m sure it’ll be fine 🙂
    Since lots of sites use it, it must be convenient and easy to use.
    I, for one, will continue leaving comments. Good luck making the switch!

    • Thank you gorgeous x
      This move has been nothing but chaos! Hopefully it’s all worth it in the end 😉

  • Amy

    Self care is so important. For me as I’m quite introverted self care can just mean alone time or saying no to stuff. But a good bath is always a solid choice too. Blog is looking good! I love WordPress, it’s the main CMS I use for my freelance clients (I’m a web developer ‘by day’) so have a bit of a soft spot for it.

    Amy –

    • I’m work in comms by day! Isn’t it funny how so many of us turn our hobbies into our jobs (or vice versa!)

  • Self care is really important! It took a while for me to make it a priority but self care is a priority now! Great post!

  • Love this post! I blog about self-care too, and I love finding other mental health bloggers! Awesome post 🙂 xx

  • Jasmin N

    self-care is so important 🙂 these are wonderful tips 🙂 thanks for sharing these 🙂

  • This Curvy Life

    I definitely agree with these suggestions. Bubbly and buble has to be THE best one yet.

  • Lovely suggestions. I love just snuggling with my fiancee with no rush, the best way to relieve stress. 🙂 And of course, sleeping, relaxing, eating healthy, trying to have some time off work and studies, just reading blogs, etc. are important too. 🙂

    Nora /

    • Curling up on the sofa with my wee cat and reading blogs is actually one of my favourite pasttimes! xx

  • happy nami

    I also believe in the importance of self-care. There’s nothing worse than when we neglect ourselves. I agree on the exercising part – it gives you a boost of energy, plus it makes you feel good about yourself.


  • Sonja

    Love your suggestions! Self-care is most important for me.

  • Avril Broadley

    I so need to take heed of this as I am SO bad at taking care of me. In midlife, where I am, there are many calls on my time and I come last. Thanks for the reminder.

    • It’s so easy to forget ourselves isn’t it? xx

  • that step of being disconnected and just relaxing really is a difficult task. It’s the one thing i really need to work on more!

    This is such a well written post- i think many can benefit from your advice

    • Likewise! As much as wealth of knowledge our interconnnectedness brings us, sometimes it gets in the way of our ability to simply have “me” time.

      And thank you xx 🙂

  • Love this explanation of self care and all the activities. Bubbles and Buble made me LOL! 🙂

  • Kim

    Yes, yes, and yes! As a mom and business owner, I HAVE to practice self-care or everything basically falls apart lol. Bath bombs are a real treat for me!

    • You definitely deserve it – especially as a mum!! xx

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