Life & Style with Bry Jaimea ~ An Elder Millenials Guide to Life, Love and Crying over Laksa

There are certain things I have tried living without and the answer is a firm and considered no. Not luxury for the sake of performance. Not keeping up with anyone. Just ten specific things that make my daily life noticeably better and that I have stopped apologising for wanting. From the skincare that actually works to the one household item that changed my entire relationship with Sundays, this is my honest and slightly unrepentant list of bougie non-negotiables, written by someone who is a chaos goblin in most areas of life and extremely particular in exactly these ones.

Style

10 Bougie Things I Can’t Live Without

12 June 202623 May 2026

Yes, I’m a Taurus. Yes, It Shows. I’m a Taurus, which means I was born with a deeply held belief that beautiful things are a basic human right. Not luxury. Not indulgence. Basic. The same way some people need fresh air and sunlight, I need a properly weighted wine glass and sheets that don’t feel like sandpaper. It’s not a flex. It’s a survival mechanism. I’ve tried being one of those low maintenance girls. The ones who claim they could live out of a backpack and don’t care about thread count or perfume layering. I didn’t last long. My nervous …

A well-crafted morning routine brings grounding, focus, and intention to the day ahead. I’ll share how I design a mindful start that aligns with my energy, enhances clarity, and supports my spiritual practice. From simple rituals to nourishing habits, discover how to create a routine that fosters balance and productivity. Whether you’re seeking mindfulness, structure, or a moment of peace, these steps will help you start your day with purpose.

Rituals & Routines

How to Create a Morning Routine That Actually Works

8 June 202621 May 2026

Mornings can feel chaotic, but a simple grounding routine helps me start the day with clarity, focus, and calm. Here’s how.

At some point as an adult you revisit a playground rhyme you chanted enthusiastically as a child and think, wait, what? The violence. The gender dynamics. The surprisingly specific references to death and marriage and social hierarchy that we all just absorbed at age six without a single question. This is a deep dive into the psychosexual and cultural weirdness baked into the rhymes we grew up with, why they exist the way they do, and what they were actually teaching us about power, gender, and relationships long before we had the language to notice.

The Psychosexual Weirdness of Playground Rhymes

5 June 202620 May 2026

Playground rhymes are deeply strange when you actually look at them, and nobody warned us we were memorising some genuinely weird stuff.

There is a specific kind of loyalty that only exists in a great pair of heels. They show up every time. They make you stand taller, walk differently, occupy space like you meant to be there. No situationship energy. No inconsistency. No mixed signals. Just reliable, beautiful, occasionally painful devotion. This is a love letter to the shoes that have outlasted relationships, carried me through hard nights and triumphant ones, and never once required me to explain myself. Men are temporary. A heel that fits perfectly is genuinely forever.

Relationships Style

Men Come and Go. Heels are Forever.

5 June 202628 April 2026

Men have come and gone but a great pair of heels has never once let me down, cancelled plans, or left me on read.

There is a version of gut instinct that is not instinct at all. It is your nervous system in survival mode, your unprocessed grief looking for an exit, your pain making decisions and calling it clarity. I made a choice I thought was brave and intentional and it took me an embarrassingly long time to realise it was neither. This is an honest look at the difference between regulated intuition and dysregulated impulse, how to tell which one is actually driving, and what happens when you finally learn to make choices from a place of calm rather than a place of quiet desperation.

Healing Mindfulness

Oops, I Regret A Life Choice

1 June 202620 May 2026

Turns out some of my boldest life choices were not intuition at all. They were grief wearing a very convincing disguise.

Podcast: We Need to Stop Clapping for Basic Decency

31 May 202631 May 2026

This episode is about why we stopped expecting basic decency from men and started handing out gold stars for the bare minimum instead.

There is a specific exhaustion that comes from trying to package what you do into something digestible for people who did not ask a genuine question. The polite confusion at family dinners. The follow up questions that are really just doubt wearing a curious face. At some point I stopped performing a version of my career that would land well in small talk, and started just living it instead. This is about the moment I gave up the explanation, what changed when I did, and why your career does not owe anyone a neat summary just because they asked.

Why I Stopped Trying to Make My Career Make Sense to Other People

29 May 202631 May 2026

Stopping trying to explain my career to people who were never going to get it was the most quietly liberating decision I have ever made.

We grow up hearing it in some form or another. A good woman stands by her man. A good woman does not give up. A good woman holds on. What nobody adds is the part where holding on costs you yourself. This is about dismantling the idea that endurance is the measure of a woman's worth in a relationship, why letting go of someone who is not right for you is not failure, and what it actually means to love well without disappearing in the process. You are allowed to leave. That does not make you a bad woman. It makes you an honest one.

Women Don’t Let Go of a Good Men

25 May 202621 May 2026

Good men are hard to find because good women do not let them go. If he is just casually available, that is information, babe.

When your body starts behaving strangely in your late thirties or forties, perimenopause becomes the default explanation for almost everything. Tired? Perimenopause. Foggy? Perimenopause. Joints aching, sleep disrupted, mood unpredictable? All filed under the same heading without much investigation. This is the honest account of what happened when I pushed past the default answer and found inflammation sitting quietly underneath all of it. What that looked like, what actually helped, and why women deserve more than a catch all explanation for everything their body does after a certain age.

My 40's Perimenopause

It Wasn’t Perimenopause. It Was Inflammation.

22 May 202614 May 2026

For months I assumed it was perimenopause. Turns out it was inflammation, and that distinction changed absolutely everything for me.

There is nothing quite like your nervous system deciding to have a complete moment in the middle of a Kmart while someone nearby is debating throw pillow colours. Panic attacks are not dramatic movie moments. They are fluorescent lighting and a racing heart and trying to look like a normal person browsing storage solutions while your body convinces you that you are absolutely dying. This is an honest account of what panic attacks actually feel like in completely ordinary settings, what has helped me, and why talking about them without dressing it up is the only thing that has ever made me feel less alone in it.

Panic Attacks in Kmart at 10am

18 May 20268 May 2026

Panic attacks do not wait for a convenient moment, and mine chose the homewares aisle at Kmart on a Tuesday morning to make their point.

Podcast: The Wine Aunt Manifesto

17 May 202617 May 2026

The Wine Aunt Manifesto is now a podcast episode, and I have thoughts, opinions, and absolutely no plans to apologise for any of them.

Somewhere along the way wine aunt became a punchline, a thing people say with a slightly pitying smile, like it is a consolation prize for a life that did not go to plan. It is not. The wine aunt is educated, self possessed, genuinely fun at dinner, and completely unbothered by timelines that were never hers to begin with. This is the manifesto. What it actually means to own this identity without apology, why the wine aunt is often the most interesting woman in the room, and why I stopped laughing along with the joke and started writing the terms and conditions instead.

The Wine Aunt Manifesto

15 May 202610 May 2026

Wine aunt is not a phase or a consolation prize. It is a fully realised identity and I am here to make the official case for it.

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Slow roasted tomato pasta. Yesterday, I came home

What a distinguished gentleman.

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Leaving Adelaide? Easy. Leaving the people I love?

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